Monday, January 4, 2010

Resolution Two: Community

I feel a little cheesy posting a wedding photo, but it is such a favourite shot of my bff's and I! (Why yes, I did just say bff's, for realz)
First of all, I want to say a huge thank you to all of you who commented on my last post! It was so great hearing from you all, discovering new people (and new blogs!), hearing how we're often all feeling the same, and just generally hearing an 'answer' come back, if that makes sense. Thank you, thank you!

If someone where to ask me if I was an introvert or extrovert, I would definitely say introvert. I love nights in, a real homebody at heart, and was pretty shy as a kid (ok, aside from the time I did a dance to C&C Music Factory's 'Everybody Dance Now' in front of the class, alone. Or the La Bamba debacle, but those were most definitely the exceptions to the rule) and would even have a hard time going into stores on my own as a young teen.

On the flipside, something I've noticed more and more recently is how I thrive off community. Being with others, especially like minded others is something that really invigorates me. Lately I've been trying to make an effort to bust out of my little hermit shell and head out to events, get togethers, parties and the like, that I'm invited to because I always end up loving it, despite often feeling nervous and full of self doubt on the way there (ok, and sometimes it's also despite the fact that I just didn't want to get out from under the quilts...I actually think this could be part of the reason I love twitter so much, I can be at the party and still in my pj's at the same time).

This time of year is one of the hardest times to be away from home, not so much because of the holidays, but because it's summer back there. Logging onto Facebook and seeing photos of all my favourite people, together, on some fantastic camping trip or beautiful beach totally pulls on my heart. Like any big city, Vancouver can be a tricky place to meet new people and make friends. Plus, how do you even do that once you're a grown up? I constantly say this to myself, "Oh, it's such a transient city" and while this isn't untrue, the fact that I don't put myself out there isn't helping either. Besides, I've met tons of very lovely people, and now it comes down to fostering those friendships and building community. So, I've decided that this is the year that I say yes to parties and get togethers, to take a class or two and to ask the fun people I've met both in real life and online out for tea dates. Eep! It both scares and excites me.

What about you, lovelies? Is this something you struggle with also, or are you more the life of the party type?
With community building and connecting in mind, I've added Disqus to the blog, which is why the comments section may look a little funny. For awhile now I've wanted to be able to reply directly to your comments, and build a bit more of a dialogue, which this allows me to do. I'm excited for all the virtual tea dates that might take place, so we can hang out whether you're in Vancouver or not!
p.s. One more thing! The very lovely Tara over at Scoutie Girl has a piece up where I talk about how everything old is new again and give some tips on vintage hunting. Go take a peek!

8 comments:

Claire St Juin said...

yeah I so understand you! living overseas, strangely though, I connected much more with community in groups like meetup.com groups etc. Back at home though, I really struggle to get out there... Thanks for your honesty, you've got some really awesome new years goals! xx

lyn tupaea said...

Know how you feel becka..., sometimes the thought of going to new places is scarry, but once you get there it;'s fun - and how could anyone not get on with you (: remember on line is good too though..., richard was there xxxx

Rhiannon said...

I think i might be one benefiting from this resolution. Mua ha ha.

Yay tea!

becka said...

Thanks Claire! I'm glad to hear that other people feel the same (I also get shy when I'm back home, ha) and that perhaps we can encourage each other a bit!

Rhiannon, so excited for tea! I may or may not being making us vegan treats...

Jesse Lu said...

This is a lovely resolution as well... It's hard when you're a crafter or artist to push yourself out of the house/studio. After all, you're favorite thing to do is to be sitting somewhere making things, usually at home.

Thats why I love craft groups and S'n'Bs although I haven't been to one in years. Hmmm, maybe I should start one....

becka said...

Jesse, yes I totally know what you mean! S'n'Bs are such a great place to start, I've met a lot of my crafty Vancouver friends through them. You should definitely start one!

handmade romance said...

what a lovely photo.
i am a self described inrovert - a homebody who loves to stay in as well! its funny though because once out and the nerves are pushed aside everything is fine and i have a good time. and often think i should do this more often.
i never pictured you as the shy type either. i hope you have lots of good tea dates this year x

becka said...

Thanks Evie! I would have to say the same for you, funny how we can let out the extrovert a little with our blogs, hey?